This article is reprinted from NNY Living magazine.
By LEAH BULETTI
The first rule of the man cave: It cant be too clean.
Man and cave. Whats clean about either of those two words? Clayton resident Albert Audie Cerow asked on a recent tour of his man cave. Theres nothing wrong with a little dirt.
For the uninitiated, man caves are some variation of garage, spare bedroom, den or basement, specially equipped with stereos, large TVs, video games and other entertainment deemed manly and, quite often, capable of impressing friends and guests one might invite to it for parties.
Mr. Cerows man cave, which he built about 10 years ago when he decided to finish the top story of the garage on his secluded waterfront property in the wooded Windward Cliffs, appears at first glance to violate the first rule its neatly organized down to folded blankets on the couches and is nearly immaculate.
Mr. Cerow disagrees, pointing out barely noticeable cobwebs that hang from the rafters of the roughly 600-square-foot sanctuary, which has a loft with a bed and full bath.
My wife doesnt clean up here, he says. Its mine.
If she did, the space would look different in subtle, yet, in his view, important ways. The pictures would be hung differently, for example, he says. It might look too much like the house, and that would defeat what the man cave stands for: escape, refuge, indulgence in masculine hobbies free from what can be the prying or judgmental eyes of women.
Exclusivity might be the second rule of the man cave. Mr. Cerows wife and two grown daughters all do, in fact, come up to the man cave for specific events or parties.
Women arent discouraged, but its definitely more of a man cave than a womans cave, he explains.
Thats where the refuge function comes in.
She enjoys that I can come up here if Im bothering her, Mr. Cerow says when asked if his wife has any objections to the cave. The house can feel much more like her space at times, so the cave is a place to go if she nags; she mostly stays away, he says.
And, of course, its a place to relax.
It takes you away from regular life, Mr. Cerow said. Its nice to put your feet up, crank up the music and just be in your own space.
Despite speaking of his man cave with a certain hushed reverence, Mr. Cerow says he doesnt spend nearly enough time enjoying its amenities, which are substantial: flat-screen TV, stereo system, bar (cold beer is vital to the man cave, he notes), vintage shuffleboard bowling, two couches, wood stove, various games. He estimates that he spends only four to five hours a month inside it.
But its not the amenities that make the cave what it is. Mr. Cerow describes himself in few words: laid back, devoted and fanatical for hockey. His man cave reflects to a T these characteristics, most notably with its huge repository of memorabilia of Mr. Cerows team the Toronto Maple Leafs.
The first object that greets a visitor to the cave is a coat rack made from intertwined hockey sticks. The walls are lined with Maple Leaf photographs, each of which has its own story. One shot shows Mr. Cerow at a dinner celebrating the 40th anniversary of the Maple Leafs winning the Stanley Cup one of the highlights of his life because all of my heroes were there, he says. The TV is perpetually set to a game. And theres Mr. Cerows most treasured object in the cave: a complete set of tickets from the 2004-05 season, all unused because of the lockout.
The space itself is one thing. The theme and the things in it are what make it, Mr. Cerow explains, adding that other Maple Leaf fans would be dazzled by his collection.
He acknowledges that this ability to impress through his immediately apparent devotion to the Leafs is part of the caves function.
I do like bringing people up here, he says. I feel like I have a story to tell.
He also says the space is pretty special to his friends, who appreciate being able to use it. His other competition comes from the so-called BartInn in Clayton, a man cave in a garage boasting three TVs and a more rustic feel, Mr. Cerow says. The BartInn has a different theme, however. Theyre more into NASCAR and hold a big Super Bowl party each year, so despite what he calls a friendly rivalry, Mr. Cerows Maple Leaf niche has pretty safely inoculated him from home-turf competition.
And all of this didnt come with too daunting a price tag, he says. In part because his brother-in-law was out of work at the time and helped with construction, Mr. Cerow says it was pretty affordable, putting the price tag at about $10,000.
Mr. Cerow recently had a new Sonos sound system with two new speakers installed in his house, enabling sound to be controlled wirelessly from any location using an iPad. The system will be used to control sound in the man cave, according to Dan Throop of River Audio, who did the installation and opened a new store in Clayton in June.
The beauty is that you can pick up the speakers and install them wherever you want; you just plug them in and youre done, Mr. Throop said.
The Sonos technology is not new, but is just becoming known in the north country, Mr. Throop said. Mr. Throop said he could certainly see it catching on in man caves.
Robert D. Bobby Ferris, owner of Big Apple Music, Watertown, said that the man caves arent as popular now as they were a few years ago, giving way to more family-oriented rooms these days, typically something like a family home theater room with a projection TV.
Its not just a place where men go to get away; now its a place where the family goes to get away, Mr. Ferris said. Its an extension of the home now. Women are enjoying it, too.
Mr. Ferris said in the past year, his store has installed only one man cave that was intended to be used as a mans exclusive place. He said Big Apple typically outfits about 10 to 12 of the more family-oriented man caves per year, a decent part of his business. The costs of these rooms can vary from $2,500 to $100,000, depending on the space and what people want, according to Mr. Ferris.
My impression of a man cave is basically whatever someone wants to make it personalized, he said, adding that the man cave is usually outfitted with the amenities a man wants, sort of as an allowance from the woman to give the man his space, but later becoming the more family-oriented place.
Its like a billiard room the focus is on what the man wants. When you personalize a room, it becomes more of a man cave, he said.
Big Apple installs 80 percent of the merchandise it sells and makes free visits to homes to advise people on the best equipment to suit their needs and space, Mr. Ferris said.
They all know what they like to do, but they dont know how to get it done, he said.
Mr. Ferris also said that he saw a spike in the family-room type man cave during the recession, in part because families found it more feasible to spend around $4,000 on a home theater room that they could enjoy repeatedly rather than on a much more expensive one-time vacation.
I did notice that when things got tougher, people spent more money on their homes, he said.
With the economy now seeming to improve, Mr. Ferris said he has been starting to see more demand for audio systems in cars and boats.
People are traveling again, he said.